Self care isn’t selfish.
Self care isn’t selfish. And I’m here to tell you why it isn’t.
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As a busy work from home mommy of two, I understand the feeling of guilt whenever I practice my self-care routine. And let me tell you, there’s nothing selfish about a mom of two taking some much needed time for herself.
Self-care isn’t selfish for anyone, period. We all need to nurture and take care of ourselves.
Taking the time to love ourselves and make time to rest and recharge is so necessary for life. For anyone to tell you otherwise, well, let’s just say they are plain wrong.
Are you feeling guilty for taking the time to practice self-care for yourself? That’s understandable.
It’s important to put yourself first and love yourself. If you’re always worrying about someone else or doing tasks for work, you’re only hurting yourself.
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10 ways to practice self care without feeling selfish.
- Realize that YOU matter too.
Too many times, we put ourselves last and everyone else before us. Is that fair?
No. It really isn’t. You matter too!
I know it can be hard sometimes to comprehend that paying attention to ourselves is one of the most absolute best things we can do for ourselves. Trust me, I know.
Not too long ago, when I had my firstborn I would put self-care on the back burner. I was so busy and concerned paying attention to my firstborn for years before I realized it would really benefit my mental health to take some time to myself.
That’s because I was experiencing postpartum depression, which is fairly common once you go through labor and have your baby. It was a very difficult time for me and I even wrote a book on my personal experience battling this depression and getting through it.
You can get my book down below. I really hope it helps you in your journey of self-love and happiness.
- Don’t have any regrets about taking the time to do something that will make you happy. Your future self will thank you for this later on.
A lot of times, I go through regrets in my life that aren’t necessary. I get we all feel what we feel, but regrets about taking care of yourself should not be one of them.
As more years went by where I was putting myself on the back burner, I actually found myself regretting not spending enough time on myself. Would you rather that happen to you instead?
No, I don’t think that accomplishes much here on our self-care/self-love journey. Make sure that you’re putting time into yourself.
Honestly, even a 30-minute nap can truly help you out. I do that sometimes when I’m super tired.
Spa days exist for this very reason. You work hard so you need some time to pamper yourself too!
Self care isn’t selfish.
- Practicing self-care is pushed to the side by a lot of busy people, all over the world. Try to practice self-care regularly, if possible.
Have you ever pushed self-care to the side because you were just plain old BUSY? Guilty because I’ve done this as well.
Somedays I’m so concerned about checking off the to-do list that I will literally put my self-care needs off to the next week or two weeks from then.
Is that helpful? Nope. But it’s what a lot of us do.
In my experience, it’s because I’m a mom. When I was younger I took self-care and “me time” super seriously.
Partially because I had all the time in the world! Now, not so much.
And that’s okay. But it’s still important to do something for yourself despite everything on earth telling you that self-care is selfish and you’re way too busy to take the time out of your schedule for yourself.
- Don’t listen to that negative voice in your head telling you that self-care is selfish!
Stop that as quick as you can! That negative voice telling you that self-care is selfish is just not helpful.
In fact, thinking that way can cause you to have anxiety and stress. I used to believe that a mom shouldn’t have any time to herself and it should be all about her child 24/7.
As much as I love my children, that’s not a healthy way to live. Because you exist too. You matter too.
Learn that it’s okay to put yourself first.
This is a tough one, I know it! Because I seemed to have the hardest trouble with this.
- But it’s okay to put yourself first! Making time for your self-care routine will only benefit you and help you out in life.
You’re allowed to “need a break.” It’s okay to admit you can’t handle everything that you need to deal with, all of the time.
As long as you’re trying, you’re doing SOMETHING. But, trying too hard and for too long can’t be good for anyone.
So, my advice is to NOT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF. Instead, MAKE time for yourself.
- Learn to LOVE yourself. Understand that it’s okay to put yourself first.
It’s okay to send that call to voicemail if you don’t want to deal with it today. Learn that it’s okay to say no to hanging out tonight.
You’ve got to know it’s okay to order takeout when you know you can’t handle making another gourmet meal for your huge family tonight. It’s okay to push a bedtime story to tomorrow night because you’re only human.
Self care isn’t selfish, it’s needed.
I used to wonder why I was feeling cranky all the time. My to-do list was being completed daily, my steps were in, and I was thriving with my blog.
But, why was I not in a good mood? That’s when I started to sit down and print out my planner stickers, dashboards, and all things stationery.
I settled my oldest down to craft next to me while my youngest napped and paid attention to my bullet journal. It took around six hours of fun (for my daughter and me) but I found myself smiling again.
All of a sudden, I felt decompressed. Why? Because I was doing something I loved again!
Sometimes, you need to take a break from all that busy work. Because there will ALWAYS be work to do, no matter what.
We all know you have to mom all of the time but taking time for yourself will make you a happier person. My girls prefer to be around happy and calm mom.
Being stressed out and miserable really doesn’t help them enjoy themselves and enjoy life. Take that into consideration as you debate whether or not to try a daily self-care routine out.
My daily self-care is pretty basic. What I consider self-care may differ from most.
My self-care routine is pretty basic.
You know those daily habits you kind of NEED to have in place to even have a good day? Well, I consider those my daily self-care.
For example, having my living room neat and tidy the night before feels like a dream to me whenever I wake up. What I always need though is my tea in my YETI cup and ready to drink.
Though that may not seem like self-care to others, it really is for me. It’s not even about having the morning caffeine to wake me up, it’s more like a warm and comforting drink to help wake me up and set up my day.
Another is a rest break during the day. Since I’m always on the go since my kids wake up in the morning so early, I make sure to give myself a rest break whenever I feel like I need it during the day.
The catch is I only let myself take one during the day. This is also new but I consider it self care.
When you’re doing too much (blogging, homeschooling, and all other mom duties) you can easily become worn out and exhausted. So, I listen to my body now and give myself rest when needed.
The last thing I do that may not seem like self-care to most but to me is, is that I now craft whenever I want, regardless if I’m working on my blog. This is also super new.
I used to make myself work a lot and not take any creative breaks. Slowly, I realized I was waking up daily and not looking forward to blogging.
The point was for me to find something that made me happy. So, I figured out a way to get that back which was to design printables, print new ones out, take creative breaks, and all.
The point is, self care isn’t selfish. It’s needed.
At the end of the day, you need to do what makes you happy. It’s important to put a lot of thought into pinpointing what makes you happy so that you can easily do that every day.
Self-care isn’t selfish. In fact, I think it’s necessary for your daily routine.
It’s needed. And you’ve got to figure out what you can do daily that makes you happy.
It may require some extra thought but it’s well worth it. Make sure you put some time into figuring out what makes you happy.
Even if it’s grabbing Starbucks before work every morning or making your favorite relaxing night time tea each night, just try to think of something you can do daily that’s self-care for you. Also, you can get your favorite bath products and take a bath to help relax you daily.
Whatever it may be, just know and understand that self-care every single day is super important. And I truly believe that once you accept that, learn from it, you will eventually grow with it.
Self-care has changed my life in so many ways. I know now that I need to recognize my emotions and help myself out when I need to.
Whenever I start to feel frustrated or overwhelmed, I try to do something that will help me unwind. Whether it’s exercise, crafting, planning, or even taking a nap, it’s still so helpful when I try a self-care activity.
The rest of the reasons why self care isn’t selfish.
- Taking care of yourself will help you love others better.
- When you’re happier, you glow more. People notice when you put yourself first!
- Resting and finding yourself can help you be productive when it’s time to get back to work.
- Not only are you happier but you’re more peaceful inside.
Trust me when I say that self-care isn’t selfish and I hope these 10 reasons gave you more motivation to take the time to take care of yourself. I know that a lot of moms don’t practice self-care on a daily.
And a lot of times we just can’t! We’re too busy getting stuff done.
Focus on trying anyway. Don’t give up!
Free self-care printable.
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This free self-care printable can be used for anything, really. I only create printables that I use for myself and that I truly enjoy.
And I love them! Some I print as decor for my planner pages and others I print on sticker paper and make my own stickers that way.
This free self-care printable is a regular 8.5 by 11 size pdf. I really hope you enjoy it, you can catch a look at it down below!
Self-care isn’t selfish. Try to make self care a daily act.
Remember that God is good and He doesn’t give you more than you can handle. Remind yourself that it’s okay to take breaks because you’re human and you need them.
Pray a lot, laugh a lot, and don’t stress out so much! Life is meant to be experienced but you don’t need to focus so much on negative energy.
Try to keep all the positive vibes up and in your life. I hope this post has helped you realize that self-care isn’t selfish and it’s necessary for a happy and well-balanced life.
Not only that but I pray God helps and guides you in your self-care/self-love journey. In Jesus’s name.
What’s next on mrsplanahead? One more self-care/self-love post is coming up.
I am really excited about this one coming up. If you’re subscribed, you’ll be the first to know when it’s here!
Like I said previously, I’ll be focusing an entire month on marriage coming up and creating new goodies for that topic as well. I am looking forward to working all month long on this, as it’s been a while since I’ve created new marriage content.
God bless and until next time,