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How to learn to love yourself

How to learn to love yourself.

how to learn to love yourself

Every morning when you wake up, do you feel love for yourself? Do you feel happy and confident to be YOU? I want to help you learn how to love yourself. I used to not love myself or even feel happy with myself.

Sometimes, I struggle with the same issue too. Being a busy work from home mom really has me overwhelmed and frazzled at times too. Too often, we go through so many trying situations that make us question our value and worth.

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I’m here to tell you that you ARE of worth and value. You have to value yourself as a person in order to have a happy and fulfilled life.

There are so many obstacles in life that can get in your way, IF YOU LET THEM. I’m here to remind you that God is faithful and wants you to be strong and courageous in order to get through your trying situation.

Why? Because you are amazing and you CAN get through whatever you set your mind to. Let’s dive right into how to learn to love yourself.

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How can you learn to love yourself?

No matter what anybody says about you, to you, or at you keep in mind that God loves you just as you are and nothing anyone says or does can take that away from you. I’m here to tell you that PLENTY of people will try to get you to believe that you aren’t worth ALL of your self love.

YES, YOU ARE! You can learn to love yourself easily, if you allow it. And I want to help you with that, since I have come a long way from being very negative to actually becoming a positive person.

No matter what people say OR think, remember you don’t need to be defined by anyone else. Define yourself instead with the love you have for yourself and the love God ultimately has for you.

In order to really focus on your relationship with God, make sure you have a Bible.

Surround yourself with non-toxic people.

It’s very important to surround yourself around people who love you for who you are and only want what’s best for you. We all make mistakes in life because we are not perfect, there’s no secret or shame to that. We aren’t expected to be perfect because it’s impossible.

And sometimes we make the mistake of hanging out with toxic people who aren’t at all good for us and influence us in the most negative way. As unfortunate as that is, this world isn’t perfect even though we may wish it was.

Toxic people will do no good for you in the long run. It’s wise to avoid people who don’t benefit your life in any way, shape, or form.

We are perfectly imperfect and no one should make us feel less about ourselves when we actually DO make mistakes. That’s why I constantly try to surround myself around people who ONLY want what’s best for me.

People who want to see me succeed and not fail. In my eyes, I don’t need any other type of people in my trusted circle of friends! 

how to learn to love yourself

Loving yourself makes everything better.

My advice to you when it comes to learning to love yourself is this: Once you find your group of people who love YOU for YOU, keep them in your lives!

Genuine people like this are rare to come by. I like to think the people I talk to everyday are genuine and kind. The more you surround yourself with happy and positive people, the better. Even if you aren’t feeling happy or positive, they can help cheer you up.

Toxic people are around though, and it’s best for you in the long run to get out of that toxic relationship.

Most importantly, remember to take care of yourself and make sure you are treating yourself well because taking care of yourself is important in order to be there for others. You can’t take care of others when your cup is running on empty. God wants our cups to be full.

I always want to be happy, patient, content, and calm for my children because they learn from my energy. To be the best mom that I can possibly be has always been a goal of mine.

Showing your children that you love yourself teaches them how to love themselves too. You’re teaching them a valuable life lesson. It’s a win-win situation.

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God wants you to love yourself.

God loves you for you and it is so important to keep this in mind as you go about your daily life and routines. God is always there watching over us faithfully and taking care of us. Life has become very distracting because of Social media.

Social media often gets our attention way more than the Bible does because of all the new apps we are constantly being introduced too. Also all the insta photos coming out, telling us how our lives should be.

I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen to me, it really does. I often get sidetracked from social media and allow myself to pay more attention to my phone. I have allowed myself to want what others have. And it’s not okay.

Even if it feels okay, it really does affect the way you think. It affects your day and life when you want what others have because it leads to envy.

Spending time with God is key in learning to love yourself.

Why? Mostly because I am truly missing out on His Grace and His time. Believe it or not, I actually need my time with Jesus.

He heals my heart when I am going through a rough patch. I can’t rely on anybody else because I have learned the hard way that people often let you down. God wants you to love yourself and respect and cherish yourself, too. In order to do that you need to spend some of your valuable time with him, seeking Him.

how to learn to love yourself

Learning to love yourself is fulfilling.

Don’t rely on others to make you feel good about yourself or bring you up when you are feeling down. Relying on them isn’t necessary because you have God. Also, people can be fickle and leave you on “read.” And that hurts. Especially if you were counting on that person to help you.

God won’t ever do that to you.

He won’t ever leave you on “read.”

He’ll help you through it and he’s right there, willing and ready whenever you are to be there for you and love you. All you have to do is look for Him and trust that happiness is coming your way.

how to learn to love yourself

Why is self love so important?

Self love is so important because you are learning to appreciate yourself for who you are, leading to a better quality of life. Which is really what we are all looking for, right?

When you learn to love yourself, you are setting yourself up for success. Who wants to be around a happy and fulfilled, loving person? A lot of people actually do.

And guess what? You’ll want to be around yourself too! Not only are you making yourself more happy and content but the people in your life will be happier too.

Ways to learn to love yourself.

  • Find a quiet area to just pray for your happiness and inner peace. You need to pray with God, especially if you are missing that time with Him. Go back to him and start praying.

He wants to listen to you pour out all your troubles and hardships. He wants you to love yourself and if you don’t know how he certainly wants to help you learn to love yourself! Isn’t it wonderful knowing He is just waiting on you? It brings my heart so much joy knowing I have someone who loves me indefinitely and only wants the best for me.

  • Studying scripture is NECESSARY in order to not stray away too much from God. Sometimes, I can go many days without reading my scripture and honestly it gets to me.

I love God and I want to learn more about Him, because I want to be more like Him. I want happiness in my life and I know God gives me that.

So reading up on the Word is definitely a way to go. If you haven’t already, get your Bible here in this upcoming link. Having a Bible is so important in order to focus on your time with the Lord.

If you find yourself too busy to open up the Bible, just download a free Bible app and I downloaded a free women’s Bible app where it even has topics separated to search a Bible verse for which is super convenient when you are on the go.

How does it feel to love yourself?

Loving yourself is such a freeing and fulfilling feeling. Nobody can take it away from you, even though many will try. Remember that Jesus loves you and he’s always there when you need to talk. Learning to love yourself is the first step to having a great and unbreakable relationship with the Lord.

Keep your feelings in check, too. One thing I have learned is to not let others’ bad moods affect my day and my way of living. And so many have tried because I know they are unhappy inside.

As unhappy as they are, we can’t let them bring us down. Why should we?

What have we done to deserve that? Regardless, we need to discover our own happiness and what brings US peace. It’s okay to be selfish when you’re learning to love yourself.

how to learn to love yourself


Learning to love yourself isn’t easy. Nobody said it would be. Start with self care and what makes you happy inside. Ask God for guidance, strength, and help through prayer. God loves prayers and he answers us faithfully.

Don’t forget God. He’s there constantly to help you. You don’t need to do this alone.

Until next time,



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  1. Thank you for the message! I too find that when I go too long without reading the word I feel distant from God. For a long time, I didn’t think I needed to read, and then God opened my eyes. It is crucial in your relationship with Him!

    1. admin says:

      Amen, I completely agree. So glad you enjoyed this!

    2. Amen it really is! Honestly, the app is so helpful but devotions help so much because they attach a story behind the verse!

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