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How To Avoid An Argument In Your Marriage

How to avoid an argument in your marriage.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

Have you been arguing lately in your marriage? Are you looking for ways on how to avoid an argument and be happier?

You don’t need to look any further. I’ve had my share of ups and down in my marriage of almost eight years. I’m a work from home mom of two and also a homemaker.

Here’s a disclaimer: I do not claim to be a marriage expert therefore, I am only sharing tips that have worked for my marriage.

Arguing with your spouse can wear you out.

One of my most important tips on avoiding arguing with your spouse is to walk away when you need a breath of fresh air.

You’re not avoiding the argument, you’re almost helping the outcome. Who enjoys arguing so much in their marriage? Nobody does.


Because that can really drain you and wear you out.

Walk away when you need a break.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

Walking away before an argument even starts with your spouse is an excellent way to take a breather. I hate arguing with my spouse in general, but life isn’t perfect.

I try hard to be a good wife and he tries to be a good husband. However, not everyday can be picture perfect.

Have you ever experienced these frustrating moments with your spouse? In marriage, disagreements are to be expected. However, once you start to argue things can go downhill.

It can be such a little argument too. Some aren’t even a big deal that you regret even starting.

Both of you begin to feel annoyance at first. 

You need to find a good way to communicate with each other.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

Finding an amazing way to communicate with one another takes a lot of time and patience. I didn’t even learn how to communicate with Zach until years later!

I just didn’t care to learn how because I was so busy learning how to be a new mom. Most of my time was being focused on my newborn and I pushed away learning to communicate better with my husband.

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To avoid arguing with your spouse, make sure you know how to communicate effectively with him. What is his love language?

These are questions you need to know answers to. I communicate so much more differently than how my husband does.

Once you learn how to communicate effectively with your husband, life just got a whole lot easier for you. I’m serious.

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More ways on how to avoid an argument in your marriage.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

Just like any great thing in life, a happy marriage just don’t happen easily. It takes a lot of work and patience.

There are times I want to argue with my husband. A lot. But now, after a few years of marriage, I take a few moments to pause and reflect.

Does it benefit me to start this argument? Or do I just need a little more patience?

I know a lot of people will feel differently on my advice to be a little more patient with your spouse. I would have agreed at the start of my marriage too.

As a newlywed, you have this fire inside of you and a ton of passion. As years go by though, you start to gain wisdom and understanding.

You can pick and choose. Do you choose patience?

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When you feel an argument brewing in your marriage, do yourself a favor. Take a moment to pause and reflect.

Do you need to argue right this second? Can it wait? With time will this be resolved?

Speak your mind. You don’t need to hold back. But there are different ways to communicate.

Yelling doesn’t HAVE to be one of them. Observe your spouse and how he reacts to you yelling, huffing, and puffing.

I’m pretty sure it’s not a GREAT reaction. I know my husband doesn’t react well to my criticism or nagging.

I even noticed my yelling caused him anxiety. So, take a moment to pause and be kind to your spouse.

The last of how to avoid an argument with your spouse.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

You love your spouse, that’s why you’re here, reading this. Just remember that time needs to go into a marriage.

When you put time and energy into figuring out how to live peacefully with your spouse, you will forever benefit from this. Once I took the time to really put 100% into my marriage, I was and still am so grateful I did that.

I couldn’t have done it without my relationship with God, though. Through a lot of prayer and time, God answered all of my questions.

I was led only by faith because I have had no prior marriage experience. Seeking God for guidance during my marital problems was the smartest thing I could have done for myself and my spouse.

Taking a break may be what’s best.

Why don’t you take a break? Go drink a glass of water, do your squats, write in your journal, better yet PRAY. Because God is really what you need.

Picking at your partner isn’t going to help your marriage. Furthermore, it’s only going to drive you further apart.

You love your spouse tremendously otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. You want a happy and healthy marriage and I applaud you for that. It’s what most married couples want.

God picked out our spouse specially for us.

The best time to walk away from your spouse is to avoid an argument.

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Find it in your heart to argue less with your spouse.

It’s important to affirm certain things in your life. I affirmed one day to figure out how to make my marriage work and to be happy in it as well.

You can do the same. But you need to affirm this in your life.

And your spouse needs to be on the same page as you too. Make sure you are committing to arguing less, no matter what page your spouse is on.

Arguing isn’t healthy for you or for anyone. Keep that in mind. You want to be healthy in your life in order to live a well balanced lifestyle.

Affirm less arguing in your marriage.

how to avoid an argument in your marriage

Positive affirmations are so helpful to me in my life. That and God helped me completely change my life around.

Once you affirm the happiness you want in your marriage, it will happen. You’re speaking it out into the universe and once it’s out there, it’s out there.

The next step is to pray about it and not lose hope. God answers prayers and faithfully. You just need to believe.

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Until next time,



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  1. I think walking away to breathe and rethink what to say next is very important in a marriage. It is healthy to realize you need to walk away from an unproductive conversation. Thank you for showing us the importance of this topic!

    1. Thanks so much Katie for your kind words. Love your blog by the way. ❤️

  2. Wonderful post. I think anyone in a relationship can relate to your words one way or another, I know I for sure can!
    -Madi xo |

    1. Thanks so much madi ❤️❤️

  3. This post is a must read! Knowing when to walk away and not argue is very important. Unfortunately many people have a hard time walking away. Some would rather argue and fight.

    1. Yes I know so many who want to keep fighting. It’s terrible but also human. I just hope that I’ve helped someone with this post. ❤️ thanks for the comment

  4. Poovanesh says:

    I think we get so used to our partners that we air every little annoyance before thinking. It’s always a good idea to respond reasonably and not react.

    1. Yes, very true. Taking someone for granted happens ?

  5. I think knowing when to talk about it is important, we all have that annoying thing within us and it might come out when we least expect it or we don’t even realise it. for me reading and knowing your spouse is very important because you will tell if they did what they did on purpose or it was a mistake or misunderstanding.

    1. Yes, I completely agree Joyce. It’s better to talk things through.

  6. These are good tips. Marriage is truly work. Gotta take the good with the bad. And learn to work through the bad.

    1. Couldn’t have said it better myself!

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