Advice for newlyweds.
Today I wanted to share with you five pieces of sentimental advice for newlyweds coming from my personal experience being married for so long, now headed into eight years. First of all, I adore my husband and I love being a wife.
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However, I didn’t always feel this happy and secure in my marriage. My husband and I have gone through many trying times together.
We’ve had our good times and our bad times just like every other married couple out there. Regardless, there are things I know now that I would have wanted to know back when I was going to start my life as a wife.
With this being said, I want to help you as a newlywed wife to start your marriage off with helpful advice that can help build your marriage happy and strong. Here’s a disclaimer, I do not claim to be a marriage expert but I do love to share what has worked for my marriage in hopes it helps you better your marriage.
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Often times, I look back and wish someone would have cared enough to share these meaningful tips with me at the start of my marriage. Above all, I would have handled situations differently and would have greatly appreciated the advice.
I feel like I didn’t have enough advice from loved ones starting off my marriage as a newlywed. The three most important things in a marriage, (I have come to learn) are respect, trust, and communication.
Having this all is vital to having a successful and happy marriage. It’s important for you to know and accept that as a newlywed.
But, if you don’t do things starting off the right way, it can become rather difficult to fix as time goes on. What I’m saying is, it’s best to get into a certain routine as wife and husband because it can be incredibly helpful in life.
So, why not start off on the right foot starting from the beginning? You’ll save yourself a ton of headaches.
Helpful advice for newlyweds.
There’s nothing I’d like for you more than to learn from my mistakes. I know marriage isn’t meant to perfect, but if you get into the routine of having the right habits during the marriage, you can find out your days as a newlywed wife can be pretty happy.
You aren’t going to be the perfect wife all of the time but you can be a good wife to your husband and make him happy. It’s not impossible.
However, learning is apart of growing so without further ado, let’s dive right into this helpful advice for newlyweds. My husband and I read the Bible because it is essential in our marriage.
We couldn’t have come as far as we have without the Grace of God. He’s the foundation of our marriage.
Keep in mind, this has helped my marriage out so much but no couple is the same. This works for our marriage and it helps to strengthen it daily.
Advice for newlyweds.
- Don’t brush off your husband’s thoughts and opinions.
At the beginning of my marriage, I consistently found myself brushing off what my husband would try to share with me. I wasn’t valuing his input and it was certainly putting a strain on our marriage.
You have to remind yourself that even though you married an amazing person, you don’t know everything about them. Every day is something new, something new happens all the time.
Don’t just stop listening. Make sure you still constantly listen, as if you’re on your first date.
It will help him feel loved, even after all the years start passing by. Making it a habit early on will only benefit you two.
Paying attention to your partner day after day, no matter how tedious and redundant the subject may be is vital for your marriage. Newlywed wife, don’t be like the old me!
Ignorance is bliss but living this way could greatly affect your relationship and honestly, make you seem a little selfish. It’s not all about you because you both need to make time for each other and value each other’s time.
Hold yourself accountable. Keep a notebook by your bedside and write any thoughts or opinions your husband had that day that you didn’t really pay attention to.
Make sure to bring it up the next day to show him he DOES matter to you. Take the time to do this for your marriage.
Take your marriage seriously, from the beginning.
- Take your marriage seriously, even when you really don’t want to.
Even though I was pretty young when I married my husband, oftentimes, I would treat our arguments as I treated high school relationships. That is definitely not productive and it’s a mistake.
Marriage is a very serious partnership and should not be taken lightly. I highly recommend reading this amazing book on marriage.
If you don’t know of any good books you can certainly check out your Bible for guidance. There are also sermons on marriage, workshop classes, workbooks, and tons of other resources to help guide you.
The Bible has tons of valuable information on marriage and God can guide you through your marriage, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed. Not just that, there is also this amazing Couple’s Devotional Bible that will help bring your husband and you closer.
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It’s essential in a marriage to keep pushing on. Yes, there are such frustrating times in marriage, this is true.
I know there have been many times where I felt frustrated in trying to decide who is right and who is wrong. However, I truly believe you should have open communication for both of you.
That’s a good habit to get into. The more closed in you both are, the harder it becomes to be able to open up to one another and really hear each other out.
You’re not married for like a year or two, this is you two doing LIFE together. You’ve made a commitment to be there for one another through thick and thin.
But one of the keys to a successful marriage is to learn from your mistakes, not hold grudges, and continue on loving one other.
Make time for solutions.
Continue your walk through life together side by side. Don’t lose hope, even when things feel like they’re going so wrong.
Keep trying daily and don’t give up. It could take a few days for a breakthrough, or a few years.
What really helps me during our hard times is to write about it in my planner. I have a little section for any notes and I like to write out my feelings into that.
Not only do I find this helpful but it helps me to remember what’s affected us in our marriage negatively. This helps us tackle out marriage issues early on.
You honestly can’t tell starting out. Just know it could be a while before you see or feel any lifestyle changes, especially if you two aren’t seeing eye to eye or getting along with each other.
A little bit of faith can go a long way.
Believe me, when I say, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel newlyweds. It just takes a little guidance, faith, and prayer.
And it’s best to get a start on it early on in your marriage. When you’ve made it a habit to pray for your husband, care for your husband, listen to him, nurture him, etc you will find out that solves a lot of marital issues.
I’m not saying it will solve them all, but if you’re already lacking in those areas starting out, it will be difficult to move on until you fix those issues first. There might be times where you’ll wonder if you’re even cut out for marriage.
Make sure that you’re making enough time for thoughtful date nights and hanging out with your husband regularly.
Regular date nights will improve your marriage.
Try cooking together as newlyweds. This will not only help bring you closer, but it becomes something to look forward to doing together.
My husband and I love to get in the kitchen and make breakfast for our kids. We just love helping each other out and getting our ingredients ready together.
Be sure to have faith in your marriage and the person you married. Trust your spouse and love them with a full heart and an open mind.
Marriage is a give and take, forever and ever. You’ve got to learn to give and be patient, newlyweds.
Starting off a marriage with this mindset can help your future out. Having faith in something that comes with marriage, if you want it to work out and you want to be successful.
Patience can become your best friend in your marriage if you’re smart. The more patient that you are in your marriage the likelier your marriage will be a success.
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- Fighting with your husband isn’t ideal.
Trust me when I say, you have a whole lifetime to argue so putting some arguments on hold isn’t the worst thing in the world, despite what other people may advise. Whenever my daughter gets into a little spat with a friend, I always advise her to put a hold on it and chat with your friend about it the next day.
That gives you a whole day to cool off and rethink the situation. I mean, that’s helped my husband and me so much in our marriage.
Giving each other a day to just cool off, or pushing the argument to the side to focus on something else can do you both some good. Take that advice with those tough arguments you really just need a break from.
Such a simple little tip of advice I gave my daughter and yet it still applied to my marriage. Respecting each other is important in your marriage as well.
Don’t forget to let your husband know when you’re feeling like there’s too much fighting going on in your marriage and it needs to be fixed. Just because you’re trying to get along, doesn’t mean you need to ignore and sweep the issues you two are having under the rug.
Have patience, newlywed wife.
Arguing with your husband can put stress on you and if it occurs too often, ultimately WILL put a strain on your marriage. Arguments will occur in a marriage, more often than we care to admit.
Take a breather, a pause, a BREAK. Come to it the next day, if it’s really not that urgent.
Don’t be impatient! And learn to laugh a little.
I have more tips on how to avoid arguing with your husband. I’m not saying that some arguments AREN’T necessary or worth it, but I am saying too many arguments are not good for you or your spouse, newlyweds.
If you’re investing so much time and energy into fighting with your husband, I’m telling you it’s just not a good idea. Especially if you’re one of those people who always think they need to be right (I feel like I’m talking to myself here!)
Instead of arguing, finding ways to argue, or new things to fight about, put that energy into something positive. Channel your energy into something that will you happy and content.
In some of our most constant arguments, I realized that I wanted to work in general, and working from home has allowed me to have an inner peace that’s worthwhile. When you’re arguing with your husband, you may want to identify the root of the problem.
Sure, solving an argument once is great, and moving on is even better. But, are these arguments becoming consistent and on the regular?
That’s when you need to do some soul searching and try to identify what’s causing these issues to arise. Why are you constantly arguing?
Spending quality time together is important as a newlywed wife.
- Take the time to spend quality time together, even if this just includes watching Netflix together.
I’m not the biggest fan of staying at home to have dates but with two small children, not only is it convenient but it is nice to not stress on getting a sitter with our very busy schedules.
However, I do make a point of watching a movie with my husband or having a conversation about what he wants to talk about. He likes to talk about his day with me or whatever is on his mind when he’s home from work.
A lot of times, spouses can feel unheard and just want their significant other to listen to them. If talking with your husband gets tedious, that can be a deeper issue within yourself you eventually may need help with.
Your husband wants to talk with you. Trust me when I say, I want to talk to my husband all throughout my day.
Why? Because we do LIFE together.
I depend on my husband for a lot in my life every single day and I know he depends on me too. I’m a blogging and homeschooling mom and wife and he’s out there working hard daily.
Try coordinating schedules with your husband on a wall calendar that’s placed where you both look at every morning before work. This will make sure you’re spending time together and not forgetting.
More advice for newlyweds.
As busy as I feel I try my hardest to spend quality time with my husband. Even if it’s something as simple as watching a movie together before falling asleep, we make sure to do this because we know the importance of spending time together.
Before during rough times in our marriage, we didn’t make spending time together with a priority and that was a big mistake. We often felt neglected and like we didn’t matter much to each other.
Spending time together keeps you in sync, close, and the sooner you get into the routine of spending a lot of time together, the easier your marriage will become. You will find peace and harmony in learning more about one another.
However, I do know how busy life gets. I mean, we are technically super busy daily.
As much as we’d like to be together all the time and chat, we need to lead our daily lives with our routines. Not just for work but also for our children.
I always have things to do with our kids every single day and we have to make sure we all get time together as a family. So, cut yourself some slack if you’re not able to spend as much time as you’d like together.
Just know that missing out on time together can negatively affect your marriage and cause some strain. As long as you’re trying, that’s what matters most.
Find time to spend together. Remind yourself of the first time you started dating.
Did you once have to butterflies in your stomach? I know I did.
It doesn’t have to end! Just focus on your marriage and pray together every day. Keep yourselves united.
Supporting your husband as a newlywed is key.
- Offer support whenever your spouse has a bad day.
It’s very easy for the newlywed to get wrapped up in themselves, instead of each other, together. Start thinking of yourself as a team and get used to that. The sooner you start, the better.
First of all, I know this firsthand because I was that wife. I was constantly saying, “me, me, me.” When I heard myself echo, there was the word “me” a whole lot.
Not enough of him, and that’s something I had to learn to work on. My husband did too, and now it’s more equal than not.
Try to not stay in your emotions too long and try to figure out a solution instead. It’s important to be the first person they want to talk with when they have a bad day.
Always make sure he knows that he can come to you for whatever issue he may be having. Communication in a marriage is key and shouldn’t be brushed off.
I hope these tips have helped you today and I wish you a long and happy marriage! God bless you in your newlywed journey.
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