Being married is a beautiful thing. However, I think basing your marriage on the Word of God is even more beautiful. I’ve been married to my husband for over 10 years now. It’s been a decade of learning together, growing together, and placing our faith in the Lord.
We’ve been through good times and hard times. And we have continuously asked God for guidance in this marriage because marriage just isn’t easy. And we always need God’s help to keep our marriage complete. Marriage is a beautiful union between two partners that is a blessing from Jesus.
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”Matthew 19:6 NIV
Don’t let just anyone into your marriage.
It’s important in your marriage to be careful who you trust to talk about your marital problems with. During my early years of marriage, I made sure to always vent to my mom versus other people. I still do, at times. She’s a person I trust a lot, because I know that she wants my family to be happy and my marriage to succeed.
Usually parents want the best for us, right? I’m not saying you can’t vent to your friends or whoever you want about your marriage, but just be careful. Sometimes, people don’t always give out the best advice and don’t have your best interests at heart.
The person you are venting to could be going through a situation and maybe their opinion is biased. You have to keep that in mind whenever you vent to anyone, about anything. A biased opinion that you listen to could affect your marriage.
Here are more helpful tips for your Christian marriage if you’re seeking more guidance.
More helpful Bible verses for marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”Ephesians 5:22 NIV
A lot of times, women question how much their husband should love them. Or what he needs to do to “show” that he loves them the right way that WE believe he should. And the sad truth is a lot of women base their opinions of how their husband should show affection off of social media.
As if social media were their Bible. Now, that’s not right in my opinion. As cute as all that social media stuff can be, real life is what is important and should be important in your book. Focus on what the Bible says your husband should do. Because that’s what matters the most. The Word of God.
Social media is entertaining and amazing to look at. But to base your marriage off of what other people say is okay? Um, no. Do you even know those people? Could it be that they are sponsored and creating a post for money?
You must be careful on what you allow to be in your marriage. Be aware and pay attention.
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”Ephesians 5:28
We’re always talking about “self love” and making time for ourselves. Us moms, we talk about this a lot! Well, let’s talk about how much our husbands should love us. According to the Bible, they should love us as much as they love themselves.
That’s a lot of love. And that’s the same love we should have for them. God is good and he expects us to treat each other so well in marriage. That’s a whole different kind of love God is talking about, that’s a Godly love.
Keep this in mind when you are trying to “verify” how much love and affection your husband “should be” showing you.
What it takes to be a godly wife in a marriage.
Speaking as an imperfect wife, it can be very hard to do the right thing in marriage. There are times when you want to argue, really bad. But, in a godly marriage; tell me what are you supposed to do? Keep calm and pray. You’re supposed to ask God for guidance. Not just go off by your emotion. And that can be difficult to do, for any of us out there.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”Ephesians 5:22
This can be tricky to understand and to do. And submitting to your husband doesn’t take like a second and you’re all good. You’re all done. Nope, this type of commitment in your marriage can take years to master. And even then, it is STILL difficult.
When you’re talking to the Lord, how do you speak to Him? You speak with respect, you speak calmly, and from a place of love. You’re seeking guidance, understanding, and wisdom from the Lord. You respect Him because you have faith in Him. You believe in Him.
Wives, it’s time to show our husbands their respect and understand that they are the head of the household, meaning they are leading your family in hopefully, the right direction. If He’s the godly man you love and respect, this is something He should already be doing.
Being a husband takes a lot of patience and takes a responsible man to be that. And you should be the same way as his wife. A responsible wife capable of being patient and respecting Him as head of the family.
Remember that marriage is meant to be cherished
People these days don’t take marriage as seriously as it once was taken. I believe a lot of that has to be thanks to social media. Thanks to reels and YouTube shorts, marriage is slowly being diminished into memes that are “funny” and honestly, unrealistic.
Those memes, shorts, reels, as entertaining as they are, are more than likely created by people who are sponsored and paid for to make that clip. That’s you supporting, actors in a way. Which is great, I have nothing against content creation. I create content!
I’m just saying those memes are not real life. And you can tell by people commenting saying, “this is not real life.” They are very correct. Sometimes, we forget that clip is just that. A clip.
Focus on your marriage. What it takes to really be in a marriage. And if you forgot, open up your Bible and refresh your memory. The Word of God has a lot more guidance than social media does, if you are seeking.
Cherish your marriage, treat your spouse with love, dignity, and respect. Don’t forget that God wants you to love each other so much and be happy together. He wants you to work as a team, a unit, in life together. Keep God first and seek Him for guidance.
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”Proverbs 18:22
I hope this post finds you well. God bless and until next time,